Life moves forward, but I'm stuck in concrete...

[Gundam-Ranger-X]

Honnestly, these days are getting harder and harder. It seems like those around me are all moving ahead with their lives and mine is stuck in cement or something.

I'm 22, I have a dead end job, no love life what so ever, and I'm still living at home.

I'm 22 and I dont feel like I've lived a day in my life. I've certanly never lived for myself. I get up and do things to pass time until I go to work. Not because I want to but because I feel like I have to. Because I'm expected to.

I know it could be worse but that doesn't help me feel better. Not being worse off doesn't make my current situation any better. So please don't give me any of that bs. I'm not in the mood for it. I'm not in the mood for much of anything really.

Things I used to love I find little interest right now. I don't feel like doing anything and at the same time I don't want to sit here and do nothing.

All I can do is hope and pray that tomorrow is better. I don't want to feel this empty, this alone, this broken anymore.

[falling-angel-111]

Sorry I don't really have any good advice to put here. What you would find fun is totally different than what I would find fun. I mean other than doing fun things in your spare time there's not much to say. I dunno how my dad does it really. Just looking at his life seems boring, work and bills it seems like. But even he use to go to concerts almost every weekend, and have friends over to drink. (that's before we moved though) Maybe you need to find something you really like and change your career goals.

[Godgrave]

Get drunk, and run around your neighborhood naked. Life will take an exciting new turn for you, you'd least expect it. Dude, seriously though, aren't you in a relationship? Hang out with her and do the things you liked before maybe? Go outside your walls and see another side.

[Gundam-Ranger-X]

You're kidding about the relationship, right?

[Mathias]

There are usually a job or two open in the manufacturing or plumbing trades. You may not get paid much at first working as a material handler or as an apprentice, but you can quickly work your way up through the company. I've seen plenty of high school graduates do well at my companies manufacturing plants. Some even used the time to pay for night school. Make sure you choose a career that is marketable, so if the company doesn't perform well you can still find another job.

It's not for everyone, but perhaps you might want to try going to college or a trade school. If you put your mind to it you could graduate with a associates degree in two years. Trade schools, even like Devry can be completed with a year or two with career counselors available to help you find an internship or get a job. As a side note, I found my wife-to-be visiting with friends at my old college a year after I graduated.

Don't rush the relationship hunting, it'll only depress you. Don't look for relationships in places that won't supply personalities you're not interested in. I never found anyone of interest at the bars or couple making gatherings that I participated in when I joined a match making club. Your best bet on relationships, is hanging out with friends or at least at the places you enjoy. At least you'd be certain to have at least one thing in common. Get out of the house and participate in the hobbies you enjoy. You have to go out and enjoy life, because it usually doesn't come to you.

Ok, that's all the advice from me for now. I've seen plenty of "dead ends" in my life. You just have to back out and try another street and eventually you'll find your way back to the highway of life and onto a better future.

[gokuDX7]

I'm in the exact same position your in, kind of. I finished college and I am trying to make a living. I still live with my dad and thats like hell. I don't have a g/f and basically never see girls other then on Fridays when I go out to eat to the regular Chinese food place with a few friends. I work for my self and for a contractor doing web design work I love along with work thats stupid and tedious. The work is also slow at times and I to find myself trying to kill time.

I think this is something allot of people go through around ages 21-23. I honestly don't have advice since I'm basically in the same boat. The one thing I've learned though, as much as I desire a g/f or special someone to be with....theres really no point in trying to get one right now in my life. At least not till I get my life in order and I feel happy enough on my own and have the stability to support my self without my dad. You could be different then me in this situation but I figured id just post it anyway. Remember porn can cheer you up on these sad long days :) just ask eppy.

[Godgrave]

I think I got mixed up with GFX, gomen, and yep goku's last sentence holds true. I desire all those things as well, and I'm 25 now. I work 18 hours a day if I'm lucky or more, no extra pay, 7 days a week most of the time, etc. etc. no interaction with women except clients. Don't be hard on yourself, everyone goes through it and be positive, things will get better.

[Myk JL]

I'm kinda in the same boat too... Although I'd have to say this is the best point in my life. I don't have to socialize with a bunch of people who only want to party or a few who were way into back yard wrestling. At times I want a real adventure in my life. And not that party crap most people around me I've seen doing.

Call me crazy (well I am) but sometime next year I might join the military. I have at times wanted an adventure in my life that bad.

[Vincent]

haha, you should see Avenue Q.

but anyways, if you don't like how things are do something to change it.

[unknownassailant]

ill tell yall what. DON'T get married. im 26 and i got married on jan 5. this year. it is NOT worth it. i love my wife, dont get me wrong, but she is EVIL. omg! EVIL i say. it took me a while to figure out what i wanted in life and it took me till i was 23 to do it. i have my own house and 2 cars and a wife who loves me. i think it was worth it for the most part, but the fights we get in are unreal. but there is ALWAYS something better around the corner, you just have to grab it when you can.

[Myk JL]

It's times like this that make me happy that I don't need a relationship. If I were you I might have done all of that stuff... except the relationship thing... That way I'd end up like Peter & Quagmire.

[Ladywriter]

it took my divorce longer to go thru then the entire time I was with my ex puke
marriage = stupid

[Wolflord]

Remember porn can cheer you up on these sad long days :) just ask eppy.
Ah but you can only do something so many hundreds of thousands of times before it gets boring... Switching hands gives you a few hundred thousand extra times, but what then? :p

Didn't you have a girlfriend GRX? Like, a chick who signed up on AC?

[unknownassailant]

yeah the hand thing is overrated. but its cheaper than getting married.

[Mathias]

I'll be married to Kelene for 5 years Nov. 2nd. Life has been peaches and creams with her and getting better everyday. :)

[HKofsesshoumaru]

I think you have to find the right one. Relationships are work on both sides. My ex was like pulling dead weight. I did everything to try and make us work while he sat back and did nothing. I gave up on his dumb ass and moved on.

[unknownassailant]

you know mathais? that is the greatest thing to see. the fact you and your wife have gotten along so well.... is truly amazing. i wish my marrige could be like that. but we do fight sometimes but its over stupid crap. like leaving the toilet seat up. i know some have heard myths about the toilet deal. trust me its true. all of it. theres nothing worse than being woken up at 4 in the morning hearing " what the hell? i fell in the damn toilet because of you!" then god help you, it continues through the next day.

[Myk JL]

you know mathais? that is the greatest thing to see. the fact you and your wife have gotten along so well.... is truly amazing. i wish my marriage could be like that. but we do fight sometimes but its over stupid crap. like leaving the toilet seat up. i know some have heard myths about the toilet deal. trust me its true. all of it. theres nothing worse than being woken up at 4 in the morning hearing " what the hell? i fell in the damn toilet because of you!" then god help you, it continues through the next day. If its yellow don't let it mellow...

[HKofsesshoumaru]

you know mathais? that is the greatest thing to see. the fact you and your wife have gotten along so well.... is truly amazing. i wish my marrige could be like that. but we do fight sometimes but its over stupid crap. like leaving the toilet seat up. i know some have heard myths about the toilet deal. trust me its true. all of it. theres nothing worse than being woken up at 4 in the morning hearing " what the hell? i fell in the damn toilet because of you!" then god help you, it continues through the next day.



OMG! I have fallen in a toilet before!-_-; Stupid ex..grrr:x
Thank gawd my hubby to be pays attention and puts the seat back down for me. He knows my dumb ass would fall in every time if he didn't.^_^;
Damn, I love that man. :D

[unknownassailant]

well speaking of the toilet myth. it happened to me last night. i forgot to put the seat down. and as a result i slept on the couch.

[HKofsesshoumaru]

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh! I wouldn't make him sleep on the couch.:(
I would make him get his ass out of bed and crawl in the shower with me so I could wash off the potty water.:meh: I say, if I have to get up and fall in then damn it...he is going to be up with me. We could cuddle after words. Having to get up when he was already back asleep is enough satisfaction for me.:p

[Kelene]

Luckily I have never had to worry about falling into the toilet. Mathias knows better, especially now since our kids like to have their toys go swimming if the lid is up.

[Mathias]

you know mathais? that is the greatest thing to see. the fact you and your wife have gotten along so well.... is truly amazing. i wish my marrige could be like that. but we do fight sometimes but its over stupid crap. like leaving the toilet seat up. i know some have heard myths about the toilet deal. trust me its true. all of it. theres nothing worse than being woken up at 4 in the morning hearing " what the hell? i fell in the damn toilet because of you!" then god help you, it continues through the next day.

We have our disagreements, but we never raise our voices in anger and especially not a hand. We discuss everything and don't keep secrets from each other. We never go to bed without settling a disagreement and we always sleep together. Communication is the secret to a successful marriage.

We also share in the duties (yes, you know what I mean ;) ) of rearing the children and maintaining the home. We work together like a well oiled machine. ;)

[unknownassailant]

i need to try that. we get into fights but we never raise a hand. yeah we might yell, but it doesnt last long. we always make up before going to sleep. but that might not be till 2 or 3. it still gets done either way.

[Kite]

to be honest their was a time where i went from 1 heart break to another, life sucked,
my opinion, go back to education, study hard, if you got nothing happening then nothing should distract you, breeze through your studies, get qualified and get a job. a good job that makes you move outa town.

relationships give you strength, but no dought about it, they mess you up worse then any member of the mafia could. their over rated. my advice get your heart broken while you have nothing to lose, as later in life it would cost you to much

while you have nothing to look forward to go to college / uni, socialise, and you will meet people. im not that out going or confident, but i had to turn down sex a few times just through meeting people from college and uni via friends and stuff.

not easy, but you have to leave your comfort zone

[unknownassailant]

they do give you tremendous strength. and they can take it away. yeah you have to go into un-charted waters but the risk can be more than worth it.

[HKofsesshoumaru]

You have to be willing to take a risk to gain great things. It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I am living proof of this.

[unknownassailant]

yeah thats what i said, except for the living proof part. and if it doesnt work out there is always something better ahead of you. damn this sounds like a bad dr phil episode

[Myk JL]

yeah thats what i said, except for the living proof part. and if it doesnt work out there is always something better ahead of you. damn this sounds like a bad dr phil episode Since when were there good Dr. Phil episodes?

[unknownassailant]

there wasnt any

[HKofsesshoumaru]

I don't knows I saw a few that I thought were decent. I like it when he drops into people's houses. That's funny.

[unknownassailant]

if he ever shows up to my house i'll kick his bald ass on national tv. televise this dr. phil!