Why?!

[Moon Doggie]

I went to one of my best friend's party yesterday. it started at 6 and ended at what ever. my mom said she wouldn't be able to take me there till 7, i understand that but what i didn't understand was that when i said if my dad got home early enough could he take me over there and she said no she'd do it. All i asked was why and she just sighed and said i'll do it.
So i called my dad's house and he was home and i told him what my mom said and he said he had to go take a computer to a woman's house and that he'd come by and get me after he drops the computer off if my mom said it was okay.
my mom flipped after she finished talking to my dad. accused me of going behind her back and being an inpatient little bastered...well not in English, that's how mad she was. well i'm not easily offended but i speak my mind so i told her she was obviously busy and that i'd be missing an hour of stuff and that my dad could take me i could give him directions. She said some more things. I just gave up and went to go do what needed to be done before i left.
she took me over there and picked me up, this morning everything seems to be fine. cause that's kinda what we do we get over it and pretend like some stuff never happened. but i still don't understand why she wouldn't let my dad take me over there or why she got so mad.

[Kite]

I understand totally she is being silly, but looking from her point of view, if your parents are seperated, she would feel if she couldnt do something for you that your dad could she would feel like a failure,
how ever; it is a flaw in her not anything you could have done.
Ive kinda been there my self when i was younger, dont worry, lifes easier when you move out at like 21 ^^

[Moon Doggie]

O_O oops my bad ^_^:. i didn't mean to make her feel like a failure, i made a big ignorant mistake

[Ladywriter]

It's a problem between them. Its obvious they have issues with and in dealing with each other.
I don't have any information about their situation or what went on between them so I can't really advise you. I doubt the core of their problems is you personally, but yes children can make a strained relationship worse.

[falling-angel-111]

It probably just has to do with maybe you're mom being busy and stressed. I know my mom use to be like that a lot, ask her for anything and she'd flip and go crazy. But I think now that the babbies are older, she'd settled down a lot. Maybe she's just busy, wants to be ther for you and doesn't want your dad to think like she's not a good mom.

[Mathias]

I agree with most of the assessments here. Without knowing the full history, it sounds like Mom wants to satisfy all of your needs as any good Mom would. She doesn't want your Dad to have to bail her out, because she sees it as her responsibility and hers alone. No offense, but by going to your Dad after she specifically said she would do it, you probably made her feel inadequate. That's how I would have felt in the same situation.

Things are never as easy as they seem, and not everything can be thought out logically when emotions are involved. I would recommend respecting your parents wishes. Let your desires be known, but let your parents work out the details. As long as you're not being harmed in the process, it's probably best that way. As a side note, most people don't show up in the first hour of a party, or at least they don't get moving very fast during that time.

[gokuDX7]

give your mom and hug just for the hell of it to make her feel better. She's probably sad inside.

[Moon Doggie]

I agree with most of the assessments here. Without knowing the full history, it sounds like Mom wants to satisfy all of your needs as any good Mom would. She doesn't want your Dad to have to bail her out, because she sees it as her responsibility and hers alone. No offense, but by going to your Dad after she specifically said she would do it, you probably made her feel inadequate. That's how I would have felt in the same situation.

Things are never as easy as they seem, and not everything can be thought out logically when emotions are involved. I would recommend respecting your parents wishes. Let your desires be known, but let your parents work out the details. As long as you're not being harmed in the process, it's probably best that way. As a side note, most people don't show up in the first hour of a party, or at least they don't get moving very fast during that time.

well i didn't think about that now did i? i wouldn't of been yelled at if i had thought about it. i didn't mean to hurt her feelings in any way, shape or form just thought i'd make thinks easier for her if i got a ride from my dad. and this was a BEST friend's party and to me that seems important in my short little life, enough so to be on time *snorts*

kk, i'll do that right now. jump on her and give her a big hug :happy:

[Mathias]

Yeah, hugs are great! As a parent I know how much that melts the heart. :)

[Ladywriter]

speak fer yerself :meh:

[falling-angel-111]

LOL my little brother and sister wake up every morning with a "Love you!" and a million hugs. Yeah it's sweet but when you're doing school it's annoying as hell! lol

[Wolflord]

I understand totally she is being silly, but looking from her point of view, if your parents are seperated, she would feel if she couldnt do something for you that your dad could she would feel like a failure,

You know if you play your cards right, you can exploit this for lots of cool stuff.

Just sayin'.

[Moon Doggie]

i give everybody hugs, that or i like lean against them or lay on them. there are no boundaries sometimes

lol my b-day is coming up soon, i think i'm good on the cool stuff at the moment

[Wolflord]

i give everybody hugs, that or i like lean against them or lay on them. there are no boundaries sometimes

lol my b-day is coming up soon, i think i'm good on the cool stuff at the moment
;) 8 months from now you'll be singing a different tune, so keep it in mind
haha

[Moon Doggie]

....um i'm one of those people who will play with an empty card board box so...yeah

[falling-angel-111]

X'D I wish I could be that entertained, last night I was so bored I made a bored song and practiced my meowing. >_>'

[Wolflord]

practiced my meowing. >_>'
Because you never know when being an expert might come in handy.

[Moon Doggie]

tonight i went out to eat with my dad, rachel, and gabby. well while we were waiting i was going into detail about my orchestra trip this year. since my mom paid for the last one. this year we're going on a cruise for like 615-625 we'll be gone for like a week.
well my dad thought it was kinda expensive cause he has to pay for the wedding too. well i wanted to pitch a fit and scream "why the hell did you volunteer to pay for my orchestra trip this year if you're not going to let me go?" but since we were in public i decided to be good.
so i was really quiet for the whole time, and i'm one of those people if they shut up for a long period of time you know they're upset.
so when we got back my dad pulled me aside and said, "i said you arn't going this year, you're not going to go to edward (my mom, my grandpa wanted a boy) and tell her that i can't pay for your trip and ask her for her to pay for it. understood?"
well of course that made no scence but i rather not argue with someone i know i can't win a fight with. i give up, i don't want anything not going to ask for anything, i get an "allowance" so if i want/need something that bad i'll just buy it myself. i feel like a little brat, cause i know i sound like one. but i really hope they forget my b-day. i'm done bitching for the night i guess

[falling-angel-111]

Because you never know when being an expert might come in handy.

X'D Exactly what I was thinking


Well, the thing that really gets to me is that (some) parents are so bitchy all the time. I mean with my family, I think my parents throw fits more than I do for god sake. I mean they'll call you just about everything in the book over something stupid and small and then look at you like you're stupid when you get pissed of because of them. They can always dish it out but if I were to call my mom a bitch she'd slap me. Okay yeah she gave me life and all, but does that mean she has to make 1/3 of it a nightmare?

So anyway, about you're dad, I hate it when parents do that. They say they're gonna do somethign and then don't and when they realise they're wrong they get all mad and defensive and take it out on you. I say ask you're mom to pay for it and if he won't/can't then you can stay pissed off at your dad for like the rest of the year if not more.

[Mathias]

I remember when I was a kid, I got in trouble a lot, even times when I didn't do anything to deserve it. Confrontation with a bad attitude got me in worse trouble. As a parent now, I know it's because they were stressed out trying to make ends meet, causing them to vent inappropriately at the children. I'm not saying that this is the case with everyone. Some parents are assholes, but so are some children. If I knew then what I know now, I think I would have been a lot more respectful, courteous, and loving, despite my feelings of being a human pin cushion for their troubles. It doesn't mean their reactions were justified, but it gives one a reason not to judge them so harshly.

[Moon Doggie]

i try to avoid trouble with my parents. my mom really doesn't do anything she's more like a big sister than a mom sometimes and with my dad ...i don't wanna go back to the dark ages where he'll beat me till i throw up.
my parents also try to avoid trouble with me, i really don't understand why since i'm the child and they're the adults.
i know parents get stressed out, probably why my mom has high blood pressure and all that.
but my dad could of at least given me a more detailed explination as to not ask my mom for the money to go. AND i COULD, but i'm not, borrow some money from chris, he'd give me 400+ dollars, but i'm not cause of what i have to do to pay him back
...i feel confused, need to stop being greedy and spoiled and get over myself

[Mathias]

I think separated parents try to avoid trouble to avoid custody hearings to avoid losing you. 400+ dollars? I never saw that kind of dough until I started working and all of it went to school and bills. Yeah, stop being greedy! ;)

[Rasaphane]

i try to avoid trouble with my parents. my mom really doesn't do anything she's more like a big sister than a mom sometimes and with my dad ...i don't wanna go back to the dark ages where he'll beat me till i throw up.
my parents also try to avoid trouble with me, i really don't understand why since i'm the child and they're the adults.
i know parents get stressed out, probably why my mom has high blood pressure and all that.
but my dad could of at least given me a more detailed explination as to not ask my mom for the money to go. AND i COULD, but i'm not, borrow some money from chris, he'd give me 400+ dollars, but i'm not cause of what i have to do to pay him back
...i feel confused, need to stop being greedy and spoiled and get over myself


....I still think it's cause you're crazy, that's probably why they don't want trouble with you. :p
O_O 400 plus? What does he want you to do to pay him back? I might have to get in on that deal.
I'll be greedy for you. :happy:

[D_Marx]

Dang, that cruise sounds spiffy, but unless the 'rents are okay with it--and I think your dad is being a little mean with the "don't involve your mom" thing--you could always say you would want it as your christmas present/birthday present/etc, and it can serve as the whole shebang. I've gotten some things like that.

Does that make sense?

Edit: it's probably not the best of ideas, but sometimes it works--sporatically, and sometimes bittersweetly, it works.

[Moon Doggie]

....I still think it's cause you're crazy, that's probably why they don't want trouble with you. :p
O_O 400 plus? What does he want you to do to pay him back? I might have to get in on that deal.
I'll be greedy for you. :happy:

just because i'm on medication that SOUNDS like meds for the crazy doesn't mean i'm crazy. i don't think you wanna have to do naughty things for 400+, and i have a limit on how much i'd get, any ways you're not a hoe and neither am i ...so lets move away from the 400+ subject

Yeah, Royal Caribbean i think. Alot of cool things to do....that i MIGHT be missing out on. Idk if i'd be a good idea to bring b-day and christmas, especially christmas, up yet to my dad cause apparently i have to show how much i "love" rachel and gabby and buy them gifts too *rolls eyes*

I'm going back to hoping cause moping don't work for me. if i don't get to go....oh well....but i BETTER be getting my e-violin fer sure in the future, to make up for this missed trip